10 Factors That Will Break Trust in a Relationship
Many relationships has been trying to fight out trust issue in their relationships. That is: the man might not trust the woman vice versa. For this reason lots of relationships has been broken into pieces.
So let’s go into discussions about what normally cause broken trust.
English dictionary, defines “trust” as below
“Confidence in or reliance on some person or quality.”
Factors that will break trust in a relationship:
1. Number one thing is attitude change.
What do I mean by that? For example: your boyfriend know you to be a kind that doesn’t like keeping late nights, you don’t party, you don’t talk back at him, and also you don’t like keep too many friends. If you suddenly change to doing things you don’t do before, there will be trust issue.
You have to have a consistent attitude in a relationship, if there is going to be any changes, your man or woman must be aware of the reasons for the changes.
2. Unnecessary secret keeping.
Keeping important information or secrets from a partner can lead to a breakdown in trust. Openness and honesty are vital in maintaining trust in a relationship.
For example: you engage yourself in doing some things that you know that if your partner knows about it he or she won’t agree to it, due to that maybe you decide to keep it a secret. Let your partner know even if it’s common business you are doing secertly that you know it’s to benefit both of you. Don’t keep it a secret let him know to avoid having necessary argument and trust issue.
A good relationship have no reason to hide. You must be open to your partner in everything you do in a relationship.
3. Social media intervention.
This point can be funny but I want you to know that social media is what that has cause lots of atrocity in many relationships. Like: Break up and lack of trust.
You said you are not dating him but he will always be on your status, story timelines on social media with comments like this: I miss you dear/darling, long time baby, my darling you are the best, no one else and lots more.
No matter how you prove yourself, your partner might be finding it very difficult to trust that statement until he or she sees that there is nothing serious going on between you. You need to know that it’s very wrong to celebrate people in such ways when you know there is actually nothing between you. In some cases if you have to do so be neutral most with people you are not really in a relationship with. Don’t do things that you know it can’t trigger your partner to talk aggressively to you or be jealous of.
The best friend you need to keep should be your partner first before any other person. If you are keeping more close friends aside your partner there might be trust issues if your partner is jealous type.
Remember a healthy relationship is the one that sees them selves as best friends and best enemies to one another at the same time. They can fight, they can argue but will always have a reason to come back loving one another no matter the the level of their misunderstanding and argument.
You need to know that social media can be a reason for your relationship break up, having unnecessary secret to keep there can cost you your relationship. You have no reason to hide anything on social media from your partner. Make it open even if he/she seek to know your passwords. Your partner should be confidence and bold enough to say he/she trust you at least to 75 percent in any relationship you find yourself.
4. Not doing the right thing at the right time.
You have been in a relationship with him for long but non of your friends and family knows him. He might be thinking that you are not proud of him or you are cheating on him that is why you didn’t want people to know you are in a relationship with him. A healthy relationship must be open to friends and family must know.
5. Unnecessary friends keeping.
When you are having friends that are not really relevant to your life or let me put it this way: you are claiming to be holy but the class of friends you are keeping are just the opposite of your claims, “Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are” people you keep has friends can have strong negative or positive impact to your life and it can lead to having trust issues your relationship.
There are several factors that can contribute to breaking of trust in a relationship.
It can also include the following:
1. Infidelity. Cheating on a partner is one of the most common and damaging trust-breakers in a relationship. It destroys the foundation of trust and leads to feelings of betrayal.
2. Lying. Consistently telling lies, whether big or small, erodes trust over time. When one partner discovers that the other has been dishonest, it can cause doubts and skepticism in the relationship.
3. Lack of communication. Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings, misinterpretations, and assumptions. When couples fail to effectively communicate and address issues, trust can be shaken.
4. Broken promises. Repeatedly breaking promises or not following through on commitments can damage trust. If one partner consistently fails to keep their word, it can cause the other person to doubt their trustworthiness.
5. Disrespect. When one partner consistently insults, belittles, or disrespects the other, it undermines the trust and intimacy in the relationship.
6. Lack of support. Failing to provide emotional support or not being there for each other during challenging times can lead to a loss of trust. Feeling unsupported can cause one partner to doubt the other’s commitment and reliability.
7. Financial dishonesty. Secretly spending money, hiding debt, or lying about financial matters can create significant trust issues. Financial transparency is crucial for building trust in a relationship.
8. Lack of accountability. Refusing to take responsibility for one’s actions or constantly blaming the other person can erode trust. Trust requires both partners to be accountable for their behavior.
9. Violation of boundaries. Disregarding or crossing personal boundaries can break trust in a relationship. Respecting each other’s boundaries is essential for maintaining trust and intimacy.
10 Family and friends influence.
If you include family and friends in your relationship, they can be the reason you will start loosing trust in your relationship with their kind of advice. They can start giving you bad notions that can change your mind and make you see some weaknesses in your relationship. You have to know how to settle all matters without involving family and friends in the relationship.
It’s important to note that trust can be rebuilt in a relationship, but it takes time, effort, and commitment from both partners to work through these trust-breaking factors.
Stay safe and make others around you safe too.