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  • Someone asked:
    Good evening, there's this guy, he has been on my issue since last year, he want us to be in a relationship,I like him but I don't love him. have seen all his efforts and have tried my best to keep friendship with him maybe in the process i will fall in love with it, but i didn't. He claims him really love that he wants to marry me, he bought me gift on my birthday and on Valentine's day, he check on me all the time, even when am rude to him, he still apologized. Have Tried all my best to express to him that am not interested, I even told him because we are working in the same place that it won't work. But his not listening. I don't want to hurt him and I also don't know what to do anymore. And on the other hand am scared of losing him because I feel like will I be able to meet someone like him that will also treat me the same way he does? he treat me differently from the guys have come across. Should I give him a chance or I should just tell him am not interested and let him go.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      Dear [Anonymous],It is often observed that some women do not fully appreciate a man who treats them well until they are on the verge of losing him. This can also apply to men, who sometimes fail to value a woman who loves them, instead focusing on someone they have to work hard to win over.I'm glad you have realized that you do not want to lose him because he treats you well. Since you haven't fallen in love with him yet, I wouldn't advise forcing the relationship. Instead, give it more time. Stay close to him as friends, and with time, you might develop deeper feelings if it's meant to be. However, don't force yourself into a relationship out of pity. Wait patiently and let love grow naturally.The relationship has the potential to work if you give it time and practice. Avoid actions that might cause him to lose interest. Continue treating him well and give him your attention, even if you haven't committed to him yet. Let him feel your affection and support. Encourage the love to grow within you through your actions and behavior towards him.Best regards,[MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    Pls, is there any counselor that someone can speak to. Thank you in advance
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      WhatsApp or call me on +2347030582692
  • Someone asked:
    Good afternoon, there's lady I have been with so closely for over 4 years now, anytime I talk about relationship with her she gets angry 😡 telling me relationship is the last thing on her mind but yet she does almost everything a girlfriend should do for her boyfriend to me. Recently,I stopped calling and not showing any commitments towards her but still I can't just get her off my mind.She do call to just on me from time to time and when discovered I don't call her again, she told me, I should not think of leaving her because it will not work. And I can't remain in friend zone for long time wait for no one. She won't let me into her heart but others around us believe we're dating because of the way we relate and she allowing me to talk to her parents on phone, I have waited for too long and I think I should back out so as to learn how to love another person because I have rejected many ladies because I feel more comfortable with her than any person though we fight a lot but we're best of friends. Is she using me to catch cruise or she wants me fix something before she says yes?
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      Dear [anonymous],You have made efforts to maintain some distance from her, yet she has expressed her desire for you to stay by her side and not consider leaving her. It is important now to have a sincere conversation with her. Share your concerns about not being content with remaining in the friend zone indefinitely, as further delay may lead you to seek companionship elsewhere. It seems as though she may be inadvertently wasting your time, and it is crucial to express this to her. Give her the opportunity to reflect on these matters and make a decision, while also letting her know that you too will make a decision based on her response.Ask her why she presents herself as more than a common friend, giving you hints of a romantic relationship when she labels you as just a friend. Express your genuine worries and desire to understand the future of your connection. Let her know that you are unable to continue accepting her friendship without clarification. You may also inquire if she is involved with other individuals, as this could be a reason for her reluctance to pursue a relationship with you.Additionally, inquire about her consistent statements regarding not being ready for a relationship, continuously placing you in the friend zone and avoiding interactions with other women. If she cannot provide a valid explanation for her behavior, consider the possibility that she is purposefully wasting your time without cause. It is also plausible that she may have reservations about entering a new relationship due to past experiences or emotional pain.It is imperative to gather this information and assess whether her responses are convincing enough for you to continue the relationship. If her explanations do not satisfy your concerns, it may be best to consider letting her go, as there is no benefit in investing time in a situation that may not progress positively.Best regards, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    My girlfriend told me not to call her again in my entire life because l didn't send her 10k at the exact time she wants it. Notwithstanding l told her that my main phone was off and l can't do anything at that particular moment as l was in a crucial meeting where we were told not to answer calls but she kept calling, l now pleaded with a friend to help me send her the 10k.when he his about to send it l received her message that l should not call again in my entire life since l don't want to pick her calls but that didn't make me not to send the money l sent it. When l dismissed from the meeting. I called her she didn't pick up my calls so l now call her mum to inform her Daughter that l have sent the money.which she did.Since last week Monday till now she haven't called to atleast say thank you.When l saw that her message that l should not call her in my entire life since l don't want to pick her calls. I angrily told her to go to hell if that what she wants. Since then she haven't called me and l haven't called her. She didn't even consider the help l have been rendering all this while.Just because l didn't send money Immediately she want itWhat do you suggest. I think that's a red flag Should l lock up ?
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      Dear [Anonymous],There is a saying in Yoruba culture that goes, "The hand that is set to cut your head mistakenly cuts your cap; should you not thank God for saving your life?"If you have been financially supporting someone for a significant period of time, and they react dramatically to a single instance where you are unable to do so, to the point of telling you never to contact them again, it may be excessive.A person who forgets all your past good deeds due to a minor mistake is likely more concerned about themselves than the relationship itself. This behavior may indicate a lack of genuine love.In this situation, the individual's response was so extreme that she couldn't even appreciate or offer an apology after realizing her error. Her lack of communication or effort to make amends suggests that her actions may not be rooted in true love.If I were to offer you advice, I would suggest giving her the space to reflect and learn from this experience. If she truly values the relationship and has a future with you, she will likely reach out to apologize. If she does not, it may be a sign that she is not the right partner for you.Even if you decide to reach out to her eventually, it may be beneficial to give her time and space. Remember, in a non-marital relationship, financial support should not be the primary focus, and understanding and mutual respect should be paramount.Best regards, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    Am very confused bcuz i never hide anything from him and have plain to him since yesterday have been thinking alot of things ... Maybe is bcuz of the visa is processing that his why he change towards me an since they decline his visa maybe that is why his begging me an send sweet words to me .....even when i needed his help he could not help .....am not after his help or money but i just want him to me straight forward with me .... please am so confused
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      If you've already seen clear evidence, there's no need to prolong matters. Follow your heart; if it tells you to leave, do so. If it supports the relationship, continue, and may God help you. I've said my peace. Decide and stand by your decision for the benefit of your future. Best regards, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I].
  • Someone asked:
    Good evening everyone i met a guy on match making site and he said he want serious relationship and likewise me also.we start getting along planing our future together. He insisted i should move to his state so that we can know more about each other but due to my work I can't relocate bcuz i don't want to be a burden to any guy and we just met but all a sudden he change towards he doesn't call me like before or check on me.i asked him wat is going on and he said nothing and i asked him about his plans and he said his on it ...i saw his post yesterday that his sad an. I question him wat happen he said they decline his Visa.i was shocked bcuz he never mentions anything like that to me and I asked him wat if they accept his visa that's his how he travels without letting me know . since yesterday he said he was for how he treated me that we should continue our dating..... but my question is that should i continue with him or not bcuz of confused
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      Dear [Anonymous],Firstly, meeting someone on a dating website warrants caution and vigilance since it's a virtual connection without prior physical interaction.It appears that he has suddenly changed, suggesting he may be distancing himself and feeling pressured in the relationship. His actions indicate a lack of commitment, evident when he attempted to leave the country without informing you. Had his visa been approved, would you still be in the picture?Take a moment to assess the relationship objectively. Actions speak louder than words, and his behavior signals a lack of future prospects. Consider these factors carefully before deciding whether to continue or end the relationship.Best regards, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    I need settled down. A God fearing and working lady in support of the home if needs be
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      This is not the format to ask for relationship or friendship in the Anonymous here.You must narrate little things you are interested in, kind of lady/guy you want, age range and some descriptions and little about yourself and what you do, don't mention your name please because it's anonymous.For Example:I'm interested in meeting someone who shares similar interests and values. I enjoy outdoor activities, reading, and trying out new cuisines. I’m looking for someone who is kind, enjoys good conversations, and has a positive outlook on life. Ideally, you’re in the age range of 25-35.A little about myself: I work in [your profession], and in my free time, I like to [mention hobbies or interests]. I'm passionate about [something you're passionate about], and I love spending weekends [describe how you spend your weekends].If you think we might click, you can reach me at [your phone number] or [your email]. Looking forward to connecting with you.That is all. If you can't do that, do not bother sending request thank you.Thank you.
  • Someone asked:
    I was supposed to go to my fiancee's place yesterday Saturday, so I just chatted him that I'll soon be there. He replied me by saying that I should have told him of my intention ahead. I asked him if I have to inform him before I can come over,he said that's not the case that the problem is that they will be having a serious family meeting today Sunday which he won't want me to hear or be a part of(he lives in his father's house). I remembered he once told me this sometime ago which I discovered was a lie and its because he had a lady come over. I confront him back then and he later opened up. So him saying the same thing as that time made me asked him if the meeting is like the one where he had a lady over. He got annoyed and asked if I still had that in my mind all this while.and since yesterday evening, he's yet to call me and when I call him,he will say that he'll call me back and until now ,hes yet to call. I really love this guy pls what should I do
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      Dear [Anonymous],You are letting this guy use you in the name of love. Falling in love doesn't mean you should ignore the signs that someone is making a fool of you. This guy is probably seeing more than one girlfriend. Any relationship where you are not free to visit, call, message, or have access to many aspects of your partner’s life is not genuine. He is not being true to you the way you are true to him. Don’t let love blind you; you might end up losing the relationship. What meeting could he have on Sunday that you’re not supposed to be involved in? Is the meeting going to last the whole day? To be honest, that’s a blatant lie. Stop letting this guy fool you. You are not the only woman in his life, and that’s the simple truth.Think about this before you believe that he loves you as much as you love him.Best regards, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
  • Someone asked:
    Good Evening my Amiable people, I believe we all have a sound worship in the presence of God. Please this question I'm about to ask, I really want a discreet respond. If a lady lost her virginity while in a relationship and after that time, she never had sex with any man for about 5-6 years before meeting another man, please can someone, a lady to be precise explain if the lady's private part go back to being tight or will it still be free(free in the sense of easy penetrate) ( I'm sure you understand what I mean) Please be discreet
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      Dear [Anonymous],Once you've had sex, virginity is a one-time thing, and there's no going back to being a virgin. It's natural for the body to adjust, but there's no magic to make it as it was before. Anyone claiming otherwise is misguiding.However, it's essential to prioritize self-care and respect. Engage in exercises that promote pelvic floor health if you feel the need, but remember, it's about feeling comfortable and confident in your body, not about trying to revert to a previous state.Losing your virginity doesn't define your worth or dignity. Focus on personal growth and becoming the best version of yourself. Authenticity and self-improvement will attract genuine connections.Take care of yourself.Warm regards, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I].
  • Someone asked:
    Hello good morning, good afternoon and good evening to the anonymous. I've a distorting issue here and it's all about my relationship.My lady has learn a trade and graduated. She's now working for someone as work and pay. For over a year now, there's nothing she can boast of that she's saved. We both seem to be strangling to sort ourselves out but still things aren't working since we're distanced.I asked her to come back,we live together if not even always under the same roof since she's afraid of the emerging of pregnancy for which she's not ready yet for. Since she's now a madam, she's tools to work with,she knows how to go about her work and people like her here in the village. Whatever she earns and whatever I earn,we should have a daily contribution which will make us to get something by the close of the year to and we'll use it to rent a shop where she'll be working since for now she doesn't have a place as such. By her presence,I believe it'll be better than her being with someone, serving them as a house girl meanwhile that's not what she's gone there for, they're not even showing any gratitude of whatever she does,etc.But her mind doesn't conform to mine. She's giving false hope to herself. Even the mother is angry at her since she refuse coming back to the extent that,they mother herself has given up on talking to her on returning home. If she doesn't work,she won't eat, she'll do house chores before and after shop. Sometimes sleep late at night,baby sitting since her superior has put to birth. No savings over a year now since her TNT in and out daily has consume the salary. No joy but still, she's deceiving herself of seeing light at the end of the tunnel. She said she'll come back if only she spend the 3 yrs she gave to herself of spending there.That even if she'll be back now,I need to be in the position of marrying her before she'll.Please council me since I don't know what to do again.
    • mylovelifeandi replied:
      Dear [Anonymous],It seems she's committed to completing her three years of service with her current boss, despite the financial challenges. In the current economic climate, saving is a luxury for many, and survival takes precedence over financial security. As her partner, your role is to support and assist her in achieving her goals.Instead of advising her to leave without a solid plan, consider collaborating with her parents to help her establish a source of income, perhaps by assisting her in setting up her own shop. If marriage is a possibility, discuss it openly, as it could provide stability and mutual support as you navigate through tough times together.Before urging her to make any decisions, ensure you have concrete plans in place to support her. Encouraging her to leave without a safety net only adds to her uncertainty. Communicate openly with her about your intentions and work together to create a better future.Like she said: Marrying her is the only condition that will make come back without plan yet, why don't you think of doing that too? Your situation might start changing after you are together and start to work reasoning together as couple under the same roof. It will be rough at a time but with time you will get things right together but if you don't have such plan for her don't advice her to leave where she still can feed her self and her mother her self, what plans did she have for her that she is asking her to leave if she didn't have any other plans let her stay for that 3 years the boss may plan to set her up after that 3 years so try to ask her why she insisted to stay she may still have hope that her boss has plan for her, so she didn't want to lose what she have for now when there is nothing on ground yet for her anywhere else for now than what she got.you are the one to start preparing something for her she will be convinced when she sees that you or her parent also have something on ground for her. As it's now you are the one giving her false hope because you have nothing on ground but you just want her to leave and start hoping on nothing.Take time to reflect on these considerations before advising her to take any drastic steps.Best regards, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]