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Someoneasked:
on May 19, 2024 10:17 am
I was supposed to go to my fiancee's place yesterday Saturday, so I just chatted him that I'll soon be there. He replied me by saying that I should have told him of my intention ahead. I asked him if I have to inform him before I can come over,he said that's not the case that the problem is that they will be having a serious family meeting today Sunday which he won't want me to hear or be a part of(he lives in his father's house). I remembered he once told me this sometime ago which I discovered was a lie and its because he had a lady come over. I confront him back then and he later opened up. So him saying the same thing as that time made me asked him if the meeting is like the one where he had a lady over. He got annoyed and asked if I still had that in my mind all this while.and since yesterday evening, he's yet to call me and when I call him,he will say that he'll call me back and until now ,hes yet to call. I really love this guy pls what should I do
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 19, 2024 6:47 pm
Dear [Anonymous],You are letting this guy use you in the name of love. Falling in love doesn't mean you should ignore the signs that someone is making a fool of you. This guy is probably seeing more than one girlfriend. Any relationship where you are not free to visit, call, message, or have access to many aspects of your partner’s life is not genuine. He is not being true to you the way you are true to him. Don’t let love blind you; you might end up losing the relationship. What meeting could he have on Sunday that you’re not supposed to be involved in? Is the meeting going to last the whole day? To be honest, that’s a blatant lie. Stop letting this guy fool you. You are not the only woman in his life, and that’s the simple truth.Think about this before you believe that he loves you as much as you love him.Best regards,
[MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
Someoneasked:
on May 12, 2024 4:31 pm
Good Evening my Amiable people, I believe we all have a sound worship in the presence of God. Please this question I'm about to ask, I really want a discreet respond. If a lady lost her virginity while in a relationship and after that time, she never had sex with any man for about 5-6 years before meeting another man, please can someone, a lady to be precise explain if the lady's private part go back to being tight or will it still be free(free in the sense of easy penetrate) ( I'm sure you understand what I mean)
Please be discreet
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 13, 2024 10:10 am
Dear [Anonymous],Once you've had sex, virginity is a one-time thing, and there's no going back to being a virgin. It's natural for the body to adjust, but there's no magic to make it as it was before. Anyone claiming otherwise is misguiding.However, it's essential to prioritize self-care and respect. Engage in exercises that promote pelvic floor health if you feel the need, but remember, it's about feeling comfortable and confident in your body, not about trying to revert to a previous state.Losing your virginity doesn't define your worth or dignity. Focus on personal growth and becoming the best version of yourself. Authenticity and self-improvement will attract genuine connections.Take care of yourself.Warm regards, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I].
Someoneasked:
on May 12, 2024 4:15 pm
Hello good morning, good afternoon and good evening to the anonymous. I've a distorting issue here and it's all about my relationship.My lady has learn a trade and graduated. She's now working for someone as work and pay. For over a year now, there's nothing she can boast of that she's saved. We both seem to be strangling to sort ourselves out but still things aren't working since we're distanced.I asked her to come back,we live together if not even always under the same roof since she's afraid of the emerging of pregnancy for which she's not ready yet for. Since she's now a madam, she's tools to work with,she knows how to go about her work and people like her here in the village. Whatever she earns and whatever I earn,we should have a daily contribution which will make us to get something by the close of the year to and we'll use it to rent a shop where she'll be working since for now she doesn't have a place as such. By her presence,I believe it'll be better than her being with someone, serving them as a house girl meanwhile that's not what she's gone there for, they're not even showing any gratitude of whatever she does,etc.But her mind doesn't conform to mine. She's giving false hope to herself. Even the mother is angry at her since she refuse coming back to the extent that,they mother herself has given up on talking to her on returning home. If she doesn't work,she won't eat, she'll do house chores before and after shop. Sometimes sleep late at night,baby sitting since her superior has put to birth. No savings over a year now since her TNT in and out daily has consume the salary. No joy but still, she's deceiving herself of seeing light at the end of the tunnel. She said she'll come back if only she spend the 3 yrs she gave to herself of spending there.That even if she'll be back now,I need to be in the position of marrying her before she'll.Please council me since I don't know what to do again.
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 13, 2024 8:39 am
Dear [Anonymous],It seems she's committed to completing her three years of service with her current boss, despite the financial challenges. In the current economic climate, saving is a luxury for many, and survival takes precedence over financial security. As her partner, your role is to support and assist her in achieving her goals.Instead of advising her to leave without a solid plan, consider collaborating with her parents to help her establish a source of income, perhaps by assisting her in setting up her own shop. If marriage is a possibility, discuss it openly, as it could provide stability and mutual support as you navigate through tough times together.Before urging her to make any decisions, ensure you have concrete plans in place to support her. Encouraging her to leave without a safety net only adds to her uncertainty. Communicate openly with her about your intentions and work together to create a better future.Like she said: Marrying her is the only condition that will make come back without plan yet, why don't you think of doing that too? Your situation might start changing after you are together and start to work reasoning together as couple under the same roof. It will be rough at a time but with time you will get things right together but if you don't have such plan for her don't advice her to leave where she still can feed her self and her mother her self, what plans did she have for her that she is asking her to leave if she didn't have any other plans let her stay for that 3 years the boss may plan to set her up after that 3 years so try to ask her why she insisted to stay she may still have hope that her boss has plan for her, so she didn't want to lose what she have for now when there is nothing on ground yet for her anywhere else for now than what she got.you are the one to start preparing something for her she will be convinced when she sees that you or her parent also have something on ground for her. As it's now you are the one giving her false hope because you have nothing on ground but you just want her to leave and start hoping on nothing.Take time to reflect on these considerations before advising her to take any drastic steps.Best regards,
[MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
Someoneasked:
on May 8, 2024 8:02 pm
Evening bro i met a guy on dating site and we share contact from there we get along and he came to my for the first time an we had sex since then whenever he came to my side he always want to have sex with me and since first date sex he change completely he doesn't call me or support me even when i was sick he doesn't check on meor call since i notice that i don't allow him to have sex with me whenever he came to me side but he always mad at me or sometimes he doesn't pick my call for two days and i dont know where he stay or working place but we stay in the state ..... sometime when i ask him for help and he always complain that he dnt have money , he surprise alot of things on my birthday but only sent me 10k as birthday .am not after his money he doesn't make me happy i check his phone he save my number with baby manager and i confront him he said am his manager .have complain so many times that sex is not love but he always promise to change and he doesn't change and his getting worst.... please am confused i don't know wat to do should i leave him and
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 10, 2024 8:43 am
Dear [Anonymous],I trust this message finds you in good spirits. I have a question that I'd like to pose: if you were in the shoes of the person you're dating, would you take yourself seriously? Let's delve into this scenario: you meet someone on a dating site and, without much hesitation, you engage in sex on the first date.While physical intimacy isn't inherently wrong, it's crucial to pause and reflect on the message it might convey. By swiftly diving into such intimacy, you inadvertently signal that you're readily accessible. This may not accurately represent who you are, particularly given the limited acquaintance with the person at this early stage.Genuine connections take time to cultivate, requiring a deeper understanding of one another. Demonstrating self-respect and restraint in the initial phases of dating lays the groundwork for mutual respect and comprehension.Rushing into physical desires prematurely can undermine your self-esteem and dignity. Your actions may lead the other person to perceive you as solely seeking casual encounters rather than a meaningful relationship. This perception can significantly influence how they value and regard you within the relationship.It's important to recognize that once someone realizes they can easily attain physical intimacy with you, they may struggle to view you in a serious light. This isn't about playing hard to get, but rather about recognizing your worth and establishing healthy boundaries.Should you find yourself in this situation, it's crucial to reassess your priorities and contemplate what you genuinely seek in a relationship. While some may argue that there's nothing inherently wrong with engaging in sex on a first date, it's vital to acknowledge the potential ramifications, particularly within cultural contexts where it may lead to a loss of respect or value.Irrespective of the outcome, always prioritize your self-worth and integrity. Whether someone chooses to stay or depart, rest assured that you've remained true to your values and honored yourself. As you navigate forward, remember to approach relationships with a sense of self-respect and dignity.To be candid, it's unlikely that something fruitful will emerge from this relationship. My advice would be to consider letting go, as continuing down this path may only lead to further losses in a relationship with an already evident lack of potential. Take time to reflect deeply on this before making a decision. We've offered our sincere advice, and now the choice lies with you.Warm regards,
[MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
Someoneasked:
on May 6, 2024 2:51 pm
Good day bro I met a guy last year September at my PPA it happened that we are serving at the same PPA but he’s A2 am B2 so after 1 week of my resumption to my PPA we started chatting I got all attention from him so after 2weeks he asked me out but he said he has a girlfriend at home but they are not in good times but have liked him already so I accepted to be his girlfriend and we’re cool but he was a jealous type he doesn’t wants to see me with any guy even i don’t have male friends, so we attended the same church and he was a chorister and he knew i can sing so he persuaded me to join choir of which I rejected,so all of a sudden he got close to one girl in the church of which he doesn’t play or talk to any girls in the church before so I was surprised to see him got close to the girl so we started having issues every time because of the lady so during that festive period he travelled to Ekiti because we are from Ekiti but different local government so I didn’t have anyone to play with so three of his friends were around so he has me to go to their house so that I won’t be bored so I do call him whenever I want to go so when I started going there I got close to one of his friends we play and gist together so my boyfriend got back this January and he spent 1 week at my place so during the one week he started acting up of which I asked him countless time he said nothing is wrong that everything is fine till he left my place and he didn’t call nor text so later Sha he went to meet the lady from his church And they started dating so he broke up with through his friends I was close to
So the friend now asked me out and I don’t know what to do because i still have feelings for that my ex
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 7, 2024 6:42 pm
Dear [Anonymous],You've recently parted ways with someone and are considering dating one of their friends without allowing time for reflection. It's important to exercise patience and refrain from rushing into another relationship, especially when there's a possibility of being manipulated or used. Take the time to observe the friend who's expressing interest in you; their motivations might not be genuine, and they could simply be acting on behalf of your ex-partner.Additionally, the fact that your ex-partner swiftly moved on to someone else within the same social circle suggests a lack of maturity and perhaps a lack of sincere feelings for you. Rushing into a relationship with their friend could potentially lead to further heartache and manipulation. It's essential to maintain a friendship with your ex-partner while giving yourself the necessary time and space to evaluate your feelings and intentions.Relationships should not be rushed into, especially when there's a risk of being taken advantage of. Consider waiting until after youth services to reassess the situation and determine if pursuing a relationship with the friend is truly in your best interest. Remember, some individuals may not have genuine intentions and could be using you for their own amusement or convenience.Stay vigilant and prioritize your emotional well-being above all else.Best regards [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
Someoneasked:
on May 6, 2024 12:59 pm
Good afternoon,please I have this issue and I would like to get advice from you and those with more experience in relationships matters. I met this beautiful girl, though she looks quite young and younger than the kind of girl, I had consider for a marital journey, but I seem to love her so much from the moment I saw her,I requested for her number and she gave me, we started getting along,however for some times now I had requested to sit out with her or meet somewhere in the city we reside,but she kept making excuses,like, she can't go out looking the way she does, she has not made her hair, she is not looking good and so, I feel she doesn't want me,but she has told me how much she like me and would like us to have a cool relationship. What do you advise because I am confused at this point and don't know if I should continue with her or just let her be and find someone else, I am not the kind of man who would want to keep to girls at a time.
Yes, she had told me that she wouldn't want to experience what she had experience in her last relationship, a guy using her and leaving her hurt in tears every time.
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 7, 2024 5:52 pm
Dear [Anonymous],If a girl starts making these kinds of excuses at the beginning of a relationship, it could be a sign that she may have high expectations. However, if you're financially able to support her, you can continue. But if not, it might be wise to reconsider,(Leave her if you know you're not buoyant enough to meet her needs) as she could indirectly expect a lot from you financially. Many women desire a partner who can provide for them, and while some are upfront about it, others may expect you to understand their situation without explicitly stating it. If you're able to support her financially and believe she genuinely cares for you, giving her a chance might be worthwhile.Best regards [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
Someoneasked:
on May 6, 2024 12:31 am
Hello good morning, I've a challenge in my relationship at the moment. The issue is that,am in the most challenging period in my life concerning everything. I don't have a peace of mind, everything seem to turn on me. While trying to fix one, another emerges. Whenever my lady calls me since we're distanced and we always talk on phone,I find it difficult to flow with her. I explained my condition to her and she's cool. Now,she hanged up call on me when I decided not to repeat myself over again upon saying something that she find it difficult to hear since her side was noisy,and what I said wasn't anything salient. So as I wasn't in the position to repeat myself she hanged up the call on me for asking her to forget what I said since she's demanding I repeat myself and I refused. Meanwhile I told her severally not to do so to me. So as she hanged up the call,she called back again and I also decided not to answer. As she kept calling,I decided to put the phone on flight mode since am rejecting and refusing to answer and she kept calling. For about 4 to 5 days,she hasn't called since I put off the flight mode,and I didn't call either though I forwarded an info to her,she viewed but didn't make a comment. On the eve to her birthday,I called her at 12am to wish her. She only answered on my fifth call and asked me what it's, she's sleeping so tomorrow and again hanged up though she didn't reply I wish her.Please which step should I take any further since she still possess the annoyance I may say, which will suit us both.
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 6, 2024 10:16 am
Dear [Anonymous],A woman's reaction to your challenges can reveal her true character. It seems she's become distant since you confided in her about your struggles. Her lack of consistency in communication and avoidance of your calls are clear indicators that her interest may have waned. Many women are hesitant to weather hardships with a partner, and it's wise to recognize when someone isn't fully committed.My advice is to refrain from pressuring her to fulfill the role of a supportive girlfriend if she's unwilling. Focus on resolving your own issues and prioritize your well-being. It appears she's become a source of stress rather than support. If she's not fully invested, it's better to let her go than to cling to a relationship that's causing more harm than good.Imagine if she were your wife; there would be different considerations, but as she's still just a girlfriend, it's essential not to burden yourself unnecessarily. Don't waste energy trying to salvage a relationship with someone who's already uncertain. Take care of yourself first.Best wishes.
[MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
Someoneasked:
on May 5, 2024 6:07 pm
Please i just meet one guy last month, since last month we have been dating i haven’t ask 4 anything, but today he messages me dat he need 3k hope is not dat he wan dey use me as atm
How can i test or wat should i do I need advice please
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 6, 2024 9:02 am
Dear [Anonymous],As a man in a relationship, being the first to make demands can seem out of place to me. In a healthy dynamic, leading by example is essential. While I wouldn't discourage you from lending him the $3,000 if you can afford it, using this opportunity to test his character might provide valuable insights into who he truly is. However, considering the short duration of your relationship (just a month), such a significant decision might be premature.Even if the situation were reversed, and it was the woman making the request, it's important to acknowledge that both partners should have equal rights in the relationship. However, when such requests come from a man, it might inadvertently convey a lack of self-worth.My advice would be to cautiously consider lending him the money, understanding that it could reveal aspects of his character that you hadn't yet seen. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.Best regards,
[ MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
Someoneasked:
on May 5, 2024 12:58 pm
When I met him, i taught I have found the one,the feelings and the tubes are mutual. He asked the question and yes I accepted only for us to found out that we are both As carriers and can't get married.. the emotional hasn't been easy with us, after disappearing for a month, he came back insisting we go on with the marriage which is our happiness..saying we will fight the genotype of our kids with medical inspection.. please what should I do? I love him dearly and can't get him out of my mind..
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 5, 2024 7:09 pm
Dear [anonymous],It's essential to find a way to remove him from your thoughts and your life before it's too late, and you regret your actions. Fortunately, you discovered the genotype mismatch early on, unlike some who only find out days before their wedding due to neglecting necessary tests. Early detection is crucial, as it allows for informed decisions.While love is important in a relationship, it doesn't guarantee a successful marriage. Factors like health, genotype compatibility, family dynamics, and others play significant roles. Ignoring these factors could lead to endless regret and tears in the future.Although sickle cell disease (SS) can be managed or treated, the financial burden can be overwhelming. Consider the implications for your future children if the family isn't financially stable. Bringing them into a world of suffering isn't fair to anyone.Ultimately, love should guide your decisions, but not in situations like this. It's important to heed what you already know and avoid becoming a victim of circumstances. Make the choice that will lead to a future without regrets. Starting anew early on is the best course of action for your well-being.Best wishes,
[MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
Someoneasked:
on May 5, 2024 11:55 am
Did your followers know that you are a pervert?
mylovelifeandireplied:
on May 5, 2024 4:25 pm
Dear Anonymous,*Throughout my time on this podium, I've patiently awaited someone brave enough to point out my flaws and errors. Yet, instead of candid criticism, I've been inundated with insincere praise. I understand that no human can be perfect; we all make mistakes, knowingly or unknowingly. While I won't strive for perfection, I always have valid reasons for my actions. I implore you to be forthright and courageous. Let me know my faults so I can improve, rather than hiding behind vague critiques. Thank you.Sincerely, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]
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