Dear [Anonymous],You've recently parted ways with someone and are considering dating one of their friends without allowing time for reflection. It's important to exercise patience and refrain from rushing into another relationship, especially when there's a possibility of being manipulated or used. Take the time to observe the friend who's expressing interest in you; their motivations might not be genuine, and they could simply be acting on behalf of your ex-partner.Additionally, the fact that your ex-partner swiftly moved on to someone else within the same social circle suggests a lack of maturity and perhaps a lack of sincere feelings for you. Rushing into a relationship with their friend could potentially lead to further heartache and manipulation. It's essential to maintain a friendship with your ex-partner while giving yourself the necessary time and space to evaluate your feelings and intentions.Relationships should not be rushed into, especially when there's a risk of being taken advantage of. Consider waiting until after youth services to reassess the situation and determine if pursuing a relationship with the friend is truly in your best interest. Remember, some individuals may not have genuine intentions and could be using you for their own amusement or convenience.Stay vigilant and prioritize your emotional well-being above all else.Best regards [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]

Dear [Anonymous],A woman's reaction to your challenges can reveal her true character. It seems she's become distant since you confided in her about your struggles. Her lack of consistency in communication and avoidance of your calls are clear indicators that her interest may have waned. Many women are hesitant to weather hardships with a partner, and it's wise to recognize when someone isn't fully committed.My advice is to refrain from pressuring her to fulfill the role of a supportive girlfriend if she's unwilling. Focus on resolving your own issues and prioritize your well-being. It appears she's become a source of stress rather than support. If she's not fully invested, it's better to let her go than to cling to a relationship that's causing more harm than good.Imagine if she were your wife; there would be different considerations, but as she's still just a girlfriend, it's essential not to burden yourself unnecessarily. Don't waste energy trying to salvage a relationship with someone who's already uncertain. Take care of yourself first.Best wishes. [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]

Dear [anonymous],It's essential to find a way to remove him from your thoughts and your life before it's too late, and you regret your actions. Fortunately, you discovered the genotype mismatch early on, unlike some who only find out days before their wedding due to neglecting necessary tests. Early detection is crucial, as it allows for informed decisions.While love is important in a relationship, it doesn't guarantee a successful marriage. Factors like health, genotype compatibility, family dynamics, and others play significant roles. Ignoring these factors could lead to endless regret and tears in the future.Although sickle cell disease (SS) can be managed or treated, the financial burden can be overwhelming. Consider the implications for your future children if the family isn't financially stable. Bringing them into a world of suffering isn't fair to anyone.Ultimately, love should guide your decisions, but not in situations like this. It's important to heed what you already know and avoid becoming a victim of circumstances. Make the choice that will lead to a future without regrets. Starting anew early on is the best course of action for your well-being.Best wishes, [MY LOVE LIFE AND I]

Dear anonymous. I don't say what your husband did is good. In fact, he did worst but do you think leaving your marriage because of that is actually the best thing you can do for yourself? Don't make your matter look like someone who left his country because of rain; is there a place in the world where it does not rain? Like 90% of men nowadays cheat in their marriages, I'm sorry to say that. It's only that some few ones have not been cought. And some that are cought, their partner decided to take them for who they are. If it's just relationship, I can advice you to quit, you can quit but marriage before thinking of quitting you have to think twice. Why don't you think of trying to talk to him if he will change? Just see if he will change and also pray for him to change as well. Don't you think that he has respected the marriage enough that he couldn't come clear to you rather he lied. I'm not taking his side but you have to look at it that way too. If you want to have peace of mind in marriage, the best is not to check your husband's phone at all (because of mental health) He changed his password should not be your problem. if he is always acting good to you all the times why trying to know if he is perfect? Trust matters in a relationship/marriage. If he is not showing you that there are people outside the marriage doing better than you to him, for the sake of peace let him have full control over his phone unless he want you have a Free access to it. He didn't give you problem at all, you're the one who is looking for ways to end your marriage at all cost. Marriage is not relationship, no perfect marriage anywhere it's only if you want us lie to you, you will keep on amending and managing things till it get better. If you leave him there're stil lots of issues ahead that can stil make you regret your actions ... leaving marriage is easy but the outcome is not always easy. For the STD you talked about, just talk to him, let him know that issues like STD is the reason you denied him of sexx, just advice him to go and check himself properly and after let your marriage go back to the way you started. Did you understand that the more you deny him sexx the more the marriage fall apart?... you will let him understand that you can't let him do anything on you until he have a proper check on himself, that is all.

Sorry about that Madam. All is well but the only advice I can give you now is to seek a medical advice you really need a medical attention. No point to be panicking, all what you need for now is medical attention, so help yourself to do the normal thing .. and as for your husband who's trying to take it up with you .. it's normal for him to do that just because he is human, if you are in his shoe, yours might be worst than him but just try to always calm him whenever he want to take it up next time and let him know that he also should be the one to help you out in the process of going to the hospital to look for solution.