8 Reasons You Should Not Compare Yourself With Anyone.
Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” if you want to be happy you need to stop comparison.
Comparison, is the greatest killer of success. Life shouldn’t be a competition. Competitions only ends in entertainment and games. If you are trying to compare your life with others, you won’t make any progress. Comparison will lead you into competing with them when you are suppose to be running your own race with passion and commitment.
As a career person, the best is to run your own race in your own way and with your own body language and your own energy. “Life is not competition” Many dream chasers should have reach their destinations in time or should have accomplished their goals but due to lack of focus, passion, and commitment to their race they have failed because they keep comparing their selves to others on their ways to attain their own success. They becomes so stagnant at some points because they focus too much on what others has achieved or what others is doing rather than pursuing their own. They stop going further because they are full of envy towards others achievement.
In life, You need to understand that you can only be free when you are independence, that is: you don’t have to depend too much on others achievement to achieve yours. Give yourself freedom to explore so that you can glow on your own. Life has thought me many things but the one I believe it’s the most essential is that, “I should not compete or compare myself with anything or anyone in life.” This has helped me to achieve many things alone. I don’t depend on people and I don’t rely too much on people. What I do is that: Before you disappoint or fail me, I have already make provision for what you are suppose to do for me.
Give yourself good time to think on your own. pray more on your own, play little and hope for good things you have dream for. Expect change for better always and be optimistic always because some destinies needs a lot of commitment before they can make it possible and some needed little effort to achieve because some people have fought for them in their absence. For example: someone who is trying to build on his father legacy. Maybe his father might have done a lot in the job of his career even before he was born. All he is planning for is how effective he can be has he continue building on what his father has done. It’s possible for him not to face the hardship a beginner will face because his father has already face it.
In life we are not given the same role to play. Play your own card according to your game. When you don’t give up, you can achieve anything you hope to achieve. Believe me, life only need you to keep trying more and more. “No one is a failure”.
For the lovers here. Don’t compare your relationship with that of friends or anyone else. Comparison is the greatest killer of love, feelings, and affection. When you love someone. Learn to settle your misunderstanding within yourselves remember no relationship is perfect. Don’t involve third party, because theirs might not be perfect or even worse than yours. It’s possible that they are just pretending and you will not know due to the fact they keep their own secrets that is why you think they are better so stop exposing yourself. Sometimes you may not know what others is passing through but because they decide to be living private lives, you will be thinking they are more perfect than you are. The hard truth is, “no relationship is perfect.”
Remember to love who you choose to love in your own way. Instead of discussing your relationship matters with friends or family, it’s best to meet a counselor. A counselor knows better and what relationships takes because it’s their job.
Life comparison. I mean comparing your own life to others. You are only killing yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. Learn to do things on your own and in your own ways, it’s the best. Your life might look similar to others but it’s not the same. “the fact it’s similar doesn’t mean it’s the same life you are living”. You have your own life to live and I also have mine to live. We can’t glow at the same time because your own designed destiny and time can’t be mine.
Choosing a mentor. Choosing a mentor Is good. I wouldn’t say it’s a bad idea to choose a mentor for your life but I notice it’s the real reason why people compare their lives. It make people start finding their selves to be victims of serious competition. It’s good to be inspired by what your mentor did or what your mentor is correctly doing but you are not expected to do it exactly the same way they did theirs. Success varies and assignment we are all given is not the same moreso, you didn’t start building the career at the same time. You don’t really know how far your mentor has gone and you may not know the deep secret behind your mentor’s success so try to choose mentors but don’t compare who they are with yourself. You are on your own all the times.
8 Reasons You Should Not Compare Yourself With Others:
1. Different life paths. Each person’s journey is unique, and comparing yourself to others might lead to feelings of inadequacy or unhappiness. Trying to measure up to someone else’s achievements or successes is not a fair reflection of your own journey.
2. Unhealthy competition. Constantly comparing yourself to others can lead to an unhealthy sense of competition, where your self-worth is based on how you measure up against others. This can detract from your personal growth and prevent you from appreciating your own accomplishments.
3. Limited perspective. Comparing yourself to others often gives you a limited perspective, as you may only focus on one aspect of their life that seems more desirable than yours. Remember that everyone has their own challenges and struggles, which might not be readily apparent.
4. Differing strengths and weaknesses. Each person has their own set of strengths and weaknesses. When you compare yourself to others, you may only see their strengths and use them as benchmarks for your own self-worth. Recognize that you have your own unique set of talents and skills that shouldn’t be devalued based on someone else’s attributes.
5. Mental and emotional well-being. Constant comparison can negatively impact your mental and emotional well-being. It can lead to feelings of jealousy, inadequacy, and self-doubt, which can be detrimental to your overall happiness and self-esteem. Focusing on your own journey and self-improvement is a healthier approach.
6. Unique experiences. Each person experiences life in their own way, shaped by their circumstances, opportunities, and choices. Comparing yourself to others dismisses your own unique experiences and diminishes the value of your own journey.
7. Different goals and values. People have different aspirations, goals, and values. What might be important and fulfilling for someone else may not hold the same value for you. Comparing yourself to others could lead to a misalignment with your true desires and priorities.
8. Time wasted. Spending time comparing yourself to others takes away from focusing on your own personal growth and happiness. Instead of looking outwardly, invest your time and energy in developing your own skills, pursuing your passions, and creating a life that aligns with your own goals and values.
Overall, comparing yourself to others is a fruitless and potentially harmful exercise. Embrace your individuality, celebrate your achievements, and focus on your own growth and happiness.
Stay safe and make others around you safe too.