Relationship heartbreak and Breakup is now like toy that people can’t stop playing with in their relationship and marriage, here are some few things that can cause it.
1. Our ways of dressing.
Half naked dressing is what most people don’t see as big deal these days simply because civilization and Western believes has made us understand that there’s no big deal in whatever we wear or anything we do. Some even believed that it make them look attractive to their spouse and also attract new followers, that can be true or false it depends on situation.
Did you know that in Some cases guys can decide to take advantage of you simply because of what you are wearing or the way you are always dressing half naked? Dressing seductively doesn’t make you attract or guaranteed that you will hold a guy. The best is to wear clothes that cover up your sensitive parts and look responsible to anyone that you are in a relationship with or anyone looking at you. Mind me dressing doesn’t mean you are responsible but at a point it can give good impression to someone you are dating or people around you. “Dress the way you want to be address”
2. The ways we present ourselves to others.
For example: the way we talk and our behaviors, etc. If it is not pleasing them, maybe we sometimes talk and address our partner rudely it can be unknowingly or deliberately, maybe sometimes there’s lack of respect in our tones of addressing them and if there are some level of pride in the way we talk to our spouse, this can lead to breakup if your partner can no longer tolerate your attitude. So we always need a good presentation when talking to our partner for him/her to have good impression for us. Love can only be build on something, love doesn’t grow where there is no good character that will serves as foundation to build up the good relationship we want, don’t expect someone you are always abusing to keep loving and be caring to you, No! it’s impossible.
3. Lack of understanding and patience when matters arises in relationship/marriage.
You are always the first to nag on your spouse and when you are angry no one can control, you are hot tempted, you won’t even care to say anything or do anything stupid/harsh because you are angry, you can even hit your partner at times because you are angry, things like that can cause breakup in your relationship/marriage because no one want to stay in a relationship/marriage where’s no peace of mind.
4. Civilization and western world believes.
Being filled with western thought. Just because you are seeing it in movies that it’s happening in western world doesn’t mean it will work for you in Africa or elsewhere. It’s different people and different areas with their different believes and ideas. Don’t let civilization makes you believe that you won’t do things to please your partner, marriage/relationship is all about understanding and agreement, if your spouse didn’t like it, why should you do it? Don’t impose things in your marriage/relationship because your friends does that and scape through, or civilization thought you that. If you are imposing things it may lead to breakup or heartbreak in your relationship/marriage.
5. Inheritance and home training.
Most human character are likely to be what is either inherited or the way the child is brought up. People may likely behave extremely negative at times and it maybe unknown to them simply because they think it’s normal thing because of the way they are brought up, sometimes it can be the exact way or something similar to the people that trained them or those that gave birth to them, in most cases, little children believes that whatever the parent does is normal and it’s totally correct so in this case majority of them behave the way they are trained and such believe may not be the type that can be changed easily, what is negative might look normal to them at times which may affect their ways and manners of approaching others. That can also lead to lost of affection ending in breakup and heartbreak.
6. Not being Transparent and keeping secret.
When you are unable to open up to your partner, and when you keep secret too much, it may end up ruining your relationship/marriage because most times when your partner didn’t understand your ways in the relationship he/she may start having second thought about you and it may let him/her decide to leave the relationship even if it’s marriage at times. Being Transparent will build trust and let you understand your partner the more. Feelings die most times when you don’t know what your partner is doing, having doubting mind can kill feelings. You need to know that relationship don’t need guessing at all, you have to be plane and sincere if you want a long lasting relationship.
7. Health challenge or health issues.
Health challenge can come up anytimes in a relationship and it can take any form.
For Example: when you started the relationship you may not ask the genotype of the person you want to date maybe because you are in so much love, but later on as the relationship goes on you can decide to ask, maybe you later finds out you are not compatible, she is AS you are also AS, one of you can even be SS, That is why it’s very good to ask at early stage when you are about starting the relationship; what is your genotype? it’s not bad, it’s to avoid story that touches the heart because situations like that had cause heartbreak that some people can’t get themselves back together for a live time due to the pains it has cause them.
Example Two: some people can decide to leave their partners because they have one health challenge or another (Ulcer, Cancer, Hypotension, HIV, etc.) which they don’t know they have in their body in the initial stage of the relationship. Lots of examples like that which I may not mention that can lead to sudden break up or heartbreak in a relationship/marriage.
8. Lack of respect and loyalty.
When there is no respect and loyalty in a relationship, it makes the relationship look like two masters struggling to drive one bus, it’s not a gain saying, it’s either the bus stops moving or later have accident. In relationship/marriage One must learn to stay loyal when his/her partner is angry and a woman should always understand how to respect who is the head of the family and a man too should understand that the loyalty and respect from his wife doesn’t make her your slave, you need to learn how to treat her with respect too if not there will be no peace in the relationship/marriage which can lead to breakup or heartbreak.
9. Too much attraction to beauty and appearance.
When what you only appreciate in your relationship is the appearance and beautiful face of your spouse. When he/she stops looking good to you hatred comes instead of love and care.
Take for example: the girlfriend you are dating is one of the most beautiful to you when you started the relationship, but later on she had a slight accident and she become disfigured, she lost some parts of her body, you will start to dislike her immediately if your own love is only for her good look. Issue like that had let some people break the heart of their partners because they no longer has what they use to admire in them.
10. Third party influence.
Bringing Third party into your relationship is one of the easiest way to end a good relationship. Most people sometimes give non-working advise to you simply because they didn’t want your relationship to keep working like theirs or want it end up like theirs, if you can not meet a counselor when your relationship have issue then don’t report yourself to any of your family members and friends because your relationship/marriage is not a custumer care service, most of them are not really ready to help you. Many relationships/marriages as ended due to a reason like this.
11. Rigidity and pride.
When someone is rigidity and proud in a relationship/marriage. I know my right I can never say sorry for the things I don’t do, in courtship you always need to should understand that saying sorry sometimes doesn’t mean you are wrong, it mean you want peace to reign in your family. Stay calm and be ready to listen, If you do not want to listen to what your partner is saying, just know that it might let your spouse start losing interest in the relationship/marriage when it is always full of argument and you are not ready to be calm, that can lead the relationship to a total breakup or heartbreak if care is not taken.
12. Religious understanding and believes.
When your partner’s believe is not what you believe in, when your religious believe is also different, if you are always contradicting one another in the relationship, you don’t use to have mutual understanding and agreement in your decision making, it will lead your relationship/marriage to breakup or heartbreak.
13. Financial issue.
Money can turn around loving and caring partners against one another or turn them to great enemies. Love is sweet when there’s money to meet your partner’s needs but mind me money is not love and still lots of people has abandoned their loved one’s simply because of their financial challenge, even some Ladies nowadays are not ready to wait on you when you don’t have much to meet and care for their financial needs.
14. Education, position and levels.
Some people believed that when they are more educated than their partners they are not equal or compatible again or not in the same level again. Some people finds it easy to quit their relationship because of their added degrees, so also because of their official and political position.
If you genuinely love, all these 14 things will never let you quit your relationship rather it will let you take your spouse as he/she is. Instead of quitting your relationship try to correct that your partner.