Most relationships start like Romeo and Juliet story; the passion is so intense and the couples are so fond of each other but according to our research at www.mylovelifeandi.com most Couples commonly change from their initial Romeo and Juliet love after spending much time together; the sweet love turns sour replacing sweet love with hatred and friendship is sometimes replaced with fighting and arguments for no tangible reasons.
This trend of relationships starting off well but crashing later has made many marriages to end in divorce, so many engagements to be called off and so many relationships to falter with time.
The best reason to give as to why relationships start well and doesn’t continue so is the fact that couples stop doing what they used to previously do when the relationship started; that’s the major reason relationships turns sour no matter how sweet it started, and it could be different things for different relationships.
I like to share the eight things most couples in relationships do that make their relationship a shadow of its former self please read and also share.
1. When they no longer can please their selves like they do when they first met.
If you observe, when a relationship is new couples do things just to please their partner in order to make them happy; the man goes out of his way to show that he loves his lady and the lady does same; the problem is when the zeal to do this drops, the relationship would die gradually. When one starts waiting for the other to show more love then the relationship might slowly but steadily burn out like a candle.
2. When they get carried away by other things.
This is also another reason why relationship starts great but turns sour later on. When the relationship is new, both partners are there for each other but it doesn’t continue this way; after a while they let things come in between them and their partners, and most times this happens subconsciously. It could be kids, career, school or just anything; when you love it more than you love your relationship, your relationship would definitely suffer.
3. When there is too much gap In their communication.
Many couples started their relationships with a very good level of communication; calling day and night, text messages are very frequent to themselves but if there’s a little changes in the level of communication it might affect the relationship badly by creating distance in their interest to one another. Level of communication must remain constant to keep relationships sweet, if there should be any changes in the level of communication in a relationship it must be for a good reason which they are both aware of or what they both agreed on. Communication has a great role to play in any relationship growth and it’s one of the things that makes relationships stay strong and sweet to stay in. “if there’s no good communication there will be no good relationship”.
- For example, I might not be able to call you as I’m use to because I have a business meeting to attend in the office next week. Our boss have not finalize the numbers of days we will use yet, it might take us the whole week but whichever way trust me I will call you anytime I’m free or I have a break my one and only love.
4. When they allow third party to come in their relationship.
Most relationships would have be the best but because some couples nowadays allow third party to intrude in their affairs, that has affect their relationships in different ways; there will be no secrets in the relationship that is always involving third party in their Family affairs, they will also lack respect to one another by giving the respect to their adviser or third party they always seek advice from. Family and friends should know only little about your relationship if you want your love to always be sweet or doing great like the way you started it. If there is any need to tell anyone about your relationship meet a relationship expert or a counselor.
5. When their relationship didn’t grow with them.
You could compare love and relationship to a new born baby. When a baby is born, the kid is mostly fed with breast milk and water, and as the child grows up, the child is given more solid and diverse foods to help in the growth of the child. However, in relationships most times, at the start it is well fed but after a while couples stop feeding it with vital relationship needs and this would dampen the growth of that relationship hence making a sweet relationship to turn sour.
6. When they stop understanding each other.
This is also another reason why a relationship that starts well doesn’t always remain so. When a relationship starts, both partners try to understand each other but after a while they lose sight of this and this would lead to the fight, quarrels, arguments and the whole drama that surrounds relationships.
7. Selfishness or greediness.
Selfishness or greediness is also another relationship killer; selfishness is what would make one cheat on his partner; selfishness is what leads to misunderstanding and quarrels in relationships; thinking of yourself and yourself alone is selfishness. Selfishness occurs in different ways in relationships, and it sinks the ship of relationship gradually. For a relationship to forever remain sweet, selfishness should be far from it. Dating a selfish partner is not easy.
8. When they no longer can meet the needs of their partners like they started their relationships.
If you as a guy normally meet the needs of your girl at list 60% monthly; for example, you buy her toiletries, call card, some wears and lots more but if little changes occurs in things you constantly or commonly do for her ; this are part of the things that do affect most relationships nowadays. If you want your relationship to be always sweet let’s the things you do when you start the relationship remain constant, if there will be any changes let your partner be aware earlier before its start happening.
- For example, Dear I’m so sorry I knew it normal for me to always meet some of your needs like I always try not to miss it monthly. I knew you need the money to buy the items against next month but I had a serious issue with my bank account this month, I have been paid but I’m unable to withdraw. Well the bank manager has already promised to rectify the issue this coming week. I will make you first.
May God help our relationships. Amen!!!……